UI's ELECTRICITY

Taking a break from our current series on "RELATIONSHIP", I will like to discuss something very crucial to us all.

Nigeria has a nation is currently undergoing several challenges, one of Nigeria's major challenge is that of electricity. The government over the years and in different administrations have embarked on several elephant projects to improve power supply but dew to corruption and bad administration the projects have all ended up as a failure.

The aim of post is not to address Nigeria's numerous challenges rather it's to bring to our attention how Electricity have halted learning in Nigeria's premiere University. The University of Ibadan (UI) has been shut down over students protest on incessant power supply, the institution is to remain closed for 2 weeks until power is restored.

Funny however is the response of the school management towards the problem of electricity on campus; here is what the University authority said

"We promise to work towards letting the students have at least seven hours of uninterrupted electricity daily."

In the word of John F. Kennedy he said "Our progress as a nation can not be swifter than our progress in education", with examination fast approaching my question is what good can seven hours of uninterrupted electricity daily do.

I am joining the students of UI to ask for improved power supply and better learning condition on their campus. This phenomenon of bad power supply is common in most government owned tertiary institution, ironically the tertiary institution in which i study Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU) enjoys a great deal of electricity in comparison with other tertiary institution.

In conclusion, let us all collectively demand that the government produce the basic amenities that would help improve the living condition of the populace and for now join in the quest to return the students of UI back to there campus as exam is fast approaching.

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IS THERE REALLY A "RIGHT ONE"?

Tunmise Akinsete is my great friend and a person that i respect greatly, because am doing a series on Relationship i would love to share her view on relationship and marriage. Please do well to leave a comment after reading this post, your opinion counts. Below is her opinion about marriage and relationship.

Marriage was instituted by God in the days of Adam and Eve, before the law, and before the redemption. It wasn’t instituted for Christians; it was instituted for the world. In Ecclesiastes 9:9, Solomon makes it clear that in the days of vanity -a life apart from God-it is possible to enjoy marriage. That is, unbelievers can enjoy marriage too.

Furthermore, the books of Songs of Solomon and Revelations relate marriage to Jesus Christ and the church. What happens after the marriage of Jesus to the church?-Bliss. All pain is gone, all tears wiped away, all sickness healed. This is the exact life that God purposed for the world at large when He instituted marriage. After labor and toil and pain, a man and his wife come home to bliss. Whether Christian or not, God has given them the privilege to happiness.

Most importantly, if marriage can be enjoyed by both believers and unbelievers alike, is there really only one man in the world that a woman can be happy with? There is nowhere that this is explicitly stated in the Bible. Why then do Christians refuse to launch out into any relationship at all based on the idea that it might not be the right one? If indeed, no marriage is perfect, why can’t Christians trust that they can learn to have a happy marriage with whoever they choose to live with? Why do some die waiting for the Lord’s will? Why do some make up dreams that they never had to cajole a sister into marriage instead of just stating that they like her? Why can’t we just take the leap of faith and trust that the anointing in us will teach us all things according to James 2:20?

In conclusion, the only right one is the one we choose and who chooses us too. Jesus has chosen us, but the only people that will be present in the marriage of the Lamb are those who choose Him back. So, stop blaming your excuses of failed relationships on “he/she’s not the right one,” and open your heart with the wisdom of God to love someone.

I believe that you learnt a great deal from this post,  kindly leave a comment and share your opinion with other people.

BUILDING A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

I believe that you learnt a lot reading my last blog post on "WHY ALWAYS ME?". I would be doing a serious of post on Relationship as i believe that its key to living a great life. Building a healthy relationship is one of my favourite blog post and i believe that just as it as helped a lot of people with their relationship it can also do the same for you.
Yes it is true: two becomes one, but how come you still have your individual bodies? How come you have not been fused together?

It might sometimes get overbearing if a spouse in a relationship feels that he or she is losing their personal individualities. We must understand that we all have different interests and that interests differ. Do not; because of your relationship now deprive the other party from enjoying their interests.

You have to understand that your spouse had a life of his/her own before entering the relationship with you. So you should expect them to have there unique Idiosyncrasy. And not only that, you have to understand that they have a right to enjoy their interests.

I remembered one incident sometime ago which illustrates how we sometimes miss-handle difference in interests.
It was a particular Saturday. I was in my girl-friends place. Man-U and Arsenal were to have a match so I decided against going to hang out with the boys but to stay over and watch the march. Since I enjoy soccer so much I did not want to miss the encounter

So there I was enjoying every bit of the game. seated in her living room watching the game.
Finally the match ended. Only then did I discover that my girlfriend did not like the fact that I was engrossed with the game. She suddenly turned cold and started brooding
She was like: "and so now that you have finished watching your game….". It made me feel guilty and at the same time annoyed.
Look can't I enjoy what I love? Just because I am in a relationship do I now have to sacrifice my interests, my desires because you happen not to like that which I like?
I have a right to my individual interest. So what do I have as a result of enjoying my passion? I asked, An angry and sulking spouse?

Most of the time, negative tension arises as in my case because someone gets angry because someone else is expressing his passions which the offended person does not like.
This actually should not be so if we understand that there is a need for space in a relationship. This will not be the case if we are of the understanding that our spouses are peculiar and have a right to their interests.

imagine that my girl-friend did not get annoyed to start acting irritably because I was watching the game, and instead she got me popcorn and a bottle of soft drink and told me to enjoy the match while she goes upstairs to write some reports (since football is not a game she so much appreciates).

Imagine how that will make me feel. I will appreciate she understands what I like and since this particular things does not tickle her fancy, she will rather give me the space that I want to have my fun.

After the match I will be in a better position to want to talk. I suppose this is better than having to calm an angry spouse.

In the same vain, it will be very wrong of me if I insist that she watch the match with me. And if she declines, it will be absolutely wrong if I then get irritated and start saying stuffs like: “I just don’t understand why you don’t like the game. It’s so interesting how come you don’t get it? What then do you enjoy?”

If I say this, it means I am not talking with the understanding that she has her own peculiar interest and our interest might necessary not be the same. Also it means that I don’t respect her right to have her likes and dislikes.

This is totally wrong.
We must come to realize, accept and appreciate the differences in our spouse for us to have a smooth relationship lest we just keep creating negative tension.

So if your spouse has a hobby of collecting antiques and you just seem not to get it,

Don’t get irritated.

Or your spouse is an avid reader while you can barely get through the first chapter of a novel. And you wonder what she sees in all those books.

Relax. Don’t get pissed. She is different.
Learn to understand your peculiarities; this will help in maintaining a healthy relationship. Remember:

• That your spouse had a life before you began the relationship.
• Your spouse has his/her peculiarities and unique interests.
• That as spouses, you necessarily might not have the same interests
• Avoid being irritated by your spouses interests
• Give your spouse space to enjoy her uniqueness: respect her rights to have her own interests.
• Don’t force your spouse to share your interests
• Don’t get irritated because your spouse does not share your interest.

There you have it. Have a lovely time in your relationships. Good luck

Watch out for more notes on RELATIONSHIP AND PURPOSE

WHY AWAYS ME?!

Have you ever asked yourself the question WHY ALWAYS ME? or better still WHY ME?.

The saying “Why always me” is associated and made popular by Mario Ballotelli, just in case you’re wondering who he is, I would love to do a quick introduction. Mario Ballotelli is an Italian football prodigy. At just age 21 he has played in two top flight clubs in Europe, winning the award for European best young footballer for last season. Although he is a player with an amazing talent, yet he looks gloomy at all times even when he scores, he rarely ever smiles and the statement he always says instead of jubilating when he scores is why always me. His behavior has cost is team to lose several times as he is hot tempered and receives a lot of red card which result in sending off and making his team one man short.

A lot of us are just like Mario, as we often ask the question “Why always me?” or just like D’Banj (Oyebanji Dapo) we ask “Why Me?” We ask these questions in a lot of ways, while some of us are vocal with it; some others rather prefer to show it forth in their facial expression and other wise.

At one point or the other in our lives it is possible that we have asked ourselves this question. Asking the question is not the real problem rather the real problem is choosing to ask the question at all times and asking ourselves as if we have been singled out to face situations that are unfavorable.

If you are one of those that ask the above question, I have good news for you because I have an answer to your question and that would help you move on and stop asking the question. The reason why it’s always you is because you have chosen to perceive yourself as a victim of circumstance more often than not you act as though nature, God and everyone around you is the reason for your present predicament and that you do not have a choice over the outcome.

Rara o…!

It is important that I state that whatever you going through now is not new under the heavens and that other people have gone through it or are also going through similar challenges or worse, it’s just that they have chosen not to make theirs conspicuous or carry a makeup of mournful look on their face at all time as if the responsibility of the whole world is on their shoulder.

The key to overcoming gloominess and whatever challenges that you are facing is that you should understand that the affliction or situation that you’re going through is just for a while and that it is meant to elevate you as oppose to creating a demotion.

There is no gain without pain they say, the choices that we make when we go through certain things and the approach that we have to them determine whether all will be well or not. No matter what you’re going through always keep a positive affirmation and believe that all things work together for your good.

Cheer up and rejoice at all times, again I say rejoice. Keep a merry heart; a merry heart doeth good like a medicine, but a broken spirit drieth the bones. A merry heart is good for your health; remember that as a man thinketh in his heart so is he.

THE 80:20 RULE

I wrote this post on the 27th of July 2009 and looking back now, I can boldly say that if you follow the advice of this post you would increase productivity in whatever you choose to do. It has worked for me and I hope it does for you too.

The 80:20 rule is a basic Time management rule. The ability to manage time would lead to high productivity; no wonder the equation below is very relevant in the business world and in the World at large. It’s a basic equation that helps you as an individual it is tested and trusted.

TIME MANAGEMENT SKILL = HIGH PRODUCTIVITY

As individuals we have a considerable number of events, people and situations that are competing for our time, the ability to manage our time and priorities well would in-turn increase our productivity. High productivity can be achieved by setting out goals and managing time to achieve goals, giving you a time bound. Every individual in the world has a universal time, we all have 24 hours there is nobody in the world that has an extra 1 second added to his/her 24 hours, however the difference between lots of this people is not the inability to set out goals rather it’s the inability to set time bounds, some people set time bound but never take actions to meet with the stipulated time. Every successful person that have come to know over a period of time achieved success because they set out goals, took action to achieve their goals but more than that, they learnt to manage their time judiciously.

Having said all of this I believe that it is very important for me to establish the 80:20 RULE which states:

• 80% of unfocused effort produces 20% results
• 20% of focused effort produces 80% results

A lot of young entrepreneurs, students and adults alike love doing things, partaking in activities; they do not concentrate their effort on achieving goals.

Lessons to learn from the 80:20 Rule

• Unfocused effort is definitely bound to lead to under productivity, doing less than what you can normally do if you focus your energy into doing.
• Longer time to achieve your goals
• Plan each day carefully, and set out time for your task, don’t just spend or while away time, invest your time.
• Activity supported with “time-tied” deliveries, will ultimately lead to productivity.
• Focus your efforts at achieving your goals, if 20 % of focused effort can yield 80% result, it therefore means that if you can increase your focus you can increase productivity
• Concentrate on more speed less work. If you channel your time well you would achieve a lot in little time, a lot of us concentrate on more work less speed at the end the result we get cannot measure with our works

           Thank you for reading this , i hope you would channel your time properly, “time is of the essence”.