IS THERE REALLY A "RIGHT ONE"?

Tunmise Akinsete is my great friend and a person that i respect greatly, because am doing a series on Relationship i would love to share her view on relationship and marriage. Please do well to leave a comment after reading this post, your opinion counts. Below is her opinion about marriage and relationship.

Marriage was instituted by God in the days of Adam and Eve, before the law, and before the redemption. It wasn’t instituted for Christians; it was instituted for the world. In Ecclesiastes 9:9, Solomon makes it clear that in the days of vanity -a life apart from God-it is possible to enjoy marriage. That is, unbelievers can enjoy marriage too.

Furthermore, the books of Songs of Solomon and Revelations relate marriage to Jesus Christ and the church. What happens after the marriage of Jesus to the church?-Bliss. All pain is gone, all tears wiped away, all sickness healed. This is the exact life that God purposed for the world at large when He instituted marriage. After labor and toil and pain, a man and his wife come home to bliss. Whether Christian or not, God has given them the privilege to happiness.

Most importantly, if marriage can be enjoyed by both believers and unbelievers alike, is there really only one man in the world that a woman can be happy with? There is nowhere that this is explicitly stated in the Bible. Why then do Christians refuse to launch out into any relationship at all based on the idea that it might not be the right one? If indeed, no marriage is perfect, why can’t Christians trust that they can learn to have a happy marriage with whoever they choose to live with? Why do some die waiting for the Lord’s will? Why do some make up dreams that they never had to cajole a sister into marriage instead of just stating that they like her? Why can’t we just take the leap of faith and trust that the anointing in us will teach us all things according to James 2:20?

In conclusion, the only right one is the one we choose and who chooses us too. Jesus has chosen us, but the only people that will be present in the marriage of the Lamb are those who choose Him back. So, stop blaming your excuses of failed relationships on “he/she’s not the right one,” and open your heart with the wisdom of God to love someone.

I believe that you learnt a great deal from this post,  kindly leave a comment and share your opinion with other people.

WHY AWAYS ME?!

Have you ever asked yourself the question WHY ALWAYS ME? or better still WHY ME?.

The saying “Why always me” is associated and made popular by Mario Ballotelli, just in case you’re wondering who he is, I would love to do a quick introduction. Mario Ballotelli is an Italian football prodigy. At just age 21 he has played in two top flight clubs in Europe, winning the award for European best young footballer for last season. Although he is a player with an amazing talent, yet he looks gloomy at all times even when he scores, he rarely ever smiles and the statement he always says instead of jubilating when he scores is why always me. His behavior has cost is team to lose several times as he is hot tempered and receives a lot of red card which result in sending off and making his team one man short.

A lot of us are just like Mario, as we often ask the question “Why always me?” or just like D’Banj (Oyebanji Dapo) we ask “Why Me?” We ask these questions in a lot of ways, while some of us are vocal with it; some others rather prefer to show it forth in their facial expression and other wise.

At one point or the other in our lives it is possible that we have asked ourselves this question. Asking the question is not the real problem rather the real problem is choosing to ask the question at all times and asking ourselves as if we have been singled out to face situations that are unfavorable.

If you are one of those that ask the above question, I have good news for you because I have an answer to your question and that would help you move on and stop asking the question. The reason why it’s always you is because you have chosen to perceive yourself as a victim of circumstance more often than not you act as though nature, God and everyone around you is the reason for your present predicament and that you do not have a choice over the outcome.

Rara o…!

It is important that I state that whatever you going through now is not new under the heavens and that other people have gone through it or are also going through similar challenges or worse, it’s just that they have chosen not to make theirs conspicuous or carry a makeup of mournful look on their face at all time as if the responsibility of the whole world is on their shoulder.

The key to overcoming gloominess and whatever challenges that you are facing is that you should understand that the affliction or situation that you’re going through is just for a while and that it is meant to elevate you as oppose to creating a demotion.

There is no gain without pain they say, the choices that we make when we go through certain things and the approach that we have to them determine whether all will be well or not. No matter what you’re going through always keep a positive affirmation and believe that all things work together for your good.

Cheer up and rejoice at all times, again I say rejoice. Keep a merry heart; a merry heart doeth good like a medicine, but a broken spirit drieth the bones. A merry heart is good for your health; remember that as a man thinketh in his heart so is he.