Finally to conclude our series on
RELATIONSHIP, I will be concluding by talking about how to keep love alive, I
will be talking from the perspective of a guy, so as the case is I will greatly
appreciate if I can get suggestions from the female folks about how to keep
love alive in a relationship.
You are in love
with the girl of your dreams now. You finally found your heartthrob. You are in
a relationship and you are enjoying every second of it. That is good. That is
the way it is supposed to be. But the beauty is in making it endure the years
that lay ahead. Yes, it is not about shinning but it is about lasting. As the
guy, how do you achieve this? The first thing to do is to understand what a
woman want and what she wants you to do.
A man has to put more care into his
woman's feelings and expectations. I'm not saying you should wait on your lady
hand and foot, but pay attention if you want your relationship to last. The
problem is that many men don't put forth the effort to do meaningful little
acts of compassion. With a woman you must understand that those little acts of
compassion means a lot to her. It keeps her feeling loved. You must tend to
these little needs if you want to maintain your relationship and the nice thing
is that it is very easy to meet this need in your lady; they are little things
you can do that will make great impacts.
So what are these things women love?
What are the little things you can do to show you care? Come along with me as I teach you the little
things; the things that helps in keeping the flames of love aglow.
Hold her hand
As mundane as it
may seem, holding hands means a lot to women. The fact that you're telling the
world the two of you are together, is a big turn-on for them. It also
communicates love and affection. So when you are out together; shopping or just
walking down the street, keep her hands in yours.
Pay her a
compliment
Telling her you
love her new dress and new shade of lipstick is great and implies that you
notice the little changes she makes to look good, which incidentally are done
for you. It gives her a sense of being together with you; that her efforts
towards the person she loves is being actually noticed makes her feel good and
want to do more. The thing about a woman is that she is always willing to give
her best for you as long as you appreciate her. But it can be rather
heartbreaking when you make her feel that all her efforts are yielding little
results.
Say something
original
If you spend
your time apart but are thinking of each other, tell her something like "I
miss the way your perfume smells when you get close to me." It will not
only put a smile on her face but will also encourage her to please you in an
original way.
Be chivalrous
Chivalry is far
from being a dead art, and women still love it. Open her car door, place her
chair at the restaurant and offer your jacket if she's cold. Whatever you do,
she'll appreciate it greatly and return the favor tenfold. Be a gentleman!
Learn to do
something for her
Women often
think of men as being independent and self-serving, but learning to cook for
her, when she knows you don’t like being in the kitchen will get you much
loving. Prepare a nice meal... and there's no need to tell her that: “I helped
you out”. It also shows you are thoughtful. It doesn’t have to be cooking. It
could be helping her post her letter, help her in an assignment, drive her to
school/work or buy her things you know she wants. Whatever it is you do for
her, the idea is just to let her know you care enough to go out of your own way
to make her happy.
Invite her out
with your friends
Although you can
still have time alone with your buddies, inviting her to a night out with the
boys will mean a lot. Be sure to ask her to come, and not simply give in to her
pressure tactics to include her in your plans. To do this means that you want
her to be part of your life, something women appreciate. They don’t want to be
like your furniture or cars; things you have around you because you need them
to achieve specific goals. A woman will never be happy when you treat her as a
means to an end. As a “tool”. Inviting her to participate in an activity you
enjoy i.e. a time out with your friends indicates you love her enough for her
to be part of your world.
Contemplate her
beauty
It might seem
weird to her, but show her and tell her that you love to look at and appreciate
her eyes, lips, neck, and hair.
Take a trip
together
Okay, so this
one doesn't really count as a little thing, but it will put stars in her eyes
when she discovers that you've planned a getaway. Don't forget to bring some
honey and candles for late-night entertainment.
Call or e-mail
for no reason
Picking up the
phone in the middle of the day just to see how her day is going will work
wonders. Even sending her a witty e-mail, filled with love’s lingo, is sure to
brighten her day and put a smile on her face. A woman needs to feel secure.
Security is not only about finances, she also wants to feel emotionally
secured. She wants to know that you love her. Remember making a woman feel
secure emotionally is not a thing you do at once, it’s a thing you “keep
doing”. So keep sending those love mails.
Leave her a note
If you live
together, what better way to start the day than by leaving her a love note on
the bathroom mirror before you leave for work? She will love beautifying
herself to a personalized note from her very own Prince Charming. You can even
prepare her lunch and leave a personal tag with big kisses.
Say I love you
Yes, I love you.
Those simply words. Saying them on regular bases, is to the love you share, as
fuel is to a fire. Remember we said love is like a fire that needs to be tended
to. Those three words will always go a long way in keeping love from waxing
cold.
Keeping love alive is key in every relationship, although am not in one my self but i have come to find out through careful observation and study that the above ideas help in keeping love alive.
