KEEPING LOVE ALIVE

Finally to conclude our series on RELATIONSHIP, I will be concluding by talking about how to keep love alive, I will be talking from the perspective of a guy, so as the case is I will greatly appreciate if I can get suggestions from the female folks about how to keep love alive in a relationship.

You are in love with the girl of your dreams now. You finally found your heartthrob. You are in a relationship and you are enjoying every second of it. That is good. That is the way it is supposed to be. But the beauty is in making it endure the years that lay ahead. Yes, it is not about shinning but it is about lasting. As the guy, how do you achieve this? The first thing to do is to understand what a woman want and what she wants you to do. 

 A man has to put more care into his woman's feelings and expectations. I'm not saying you should wait on your lady hand and foot, but pay attention if you want your relationship to last. The problem is that many men don't put forth the effort to do meaningful little acts of compassion. With a woman you must understand that those little acts of compassion means a lot to her. It keeps her feeling loved. You must tend to these little needs if you want to maintain your relationship and the nice thing is that it is very easy to meet this need in your lady; they are little things you can do that will make great impacts.

            So what are these things women love? What are the little things you can do to show you care?  Come along with me as I teach you the little things; the things that helps in keeping the flames of love aglow.

           

           

Hold her hand

As mundane as it may seem, holding hands means a lot to women. The fact that you're telling the world the two of you are together, is a big turn-on for them. It also communicates love and affection. So when you are out together; shopping or just walking down the street, keep her hands in yours.

Pay her a compliment

Telling her you love her new dress and new shade of lipstick is great and implies that you notice the little changes she makes to look good, which incidentally are done for you. It gives her a sense of being together with you; that her efforts towards the person she loves is being actually noticed makes her feel good and want to do more. The thing about a woman is that she is always willing to give her best for you as long as you appreciate her. But it can be rather heartbreaking when you make her feel that all her efforts are yielding little results.

Say something original

If you spend your time apart but are thinking of each other, tell her something like "I miss the way your perfume smells when you get close to me." It will not only put a smile on her face but will also encourage her to please you in an original way.

Be chivalrous

Chivalry is far from being a dead art, and women still love it. Open her car door, place her chair at the restaurant and offer your jacket if she's cold. Whatever you do, she'll appreciate it greatly and return the favor tenfold. Be a gentleman!

Learn to do something for her

Women often think of men as being independent and self-serving, but learning to cook for her, when she knows you don’t like being in the kitchen will get you much loving. Prepare a nice meal... and there's no need to tell her that: “I helped you out”. It also shows you are thoughtful. It doesn’t have to be cooking. It could be helping her post her letter, help her in an assignment, drive her to school/work or buy her things you know she wants. Whatever it is you do for her, the idea is just to let her know you care enough to go out of your own way to make her happy.

Invite her out with your friends

Although you can still have time alone with your buddies, inviting her to a night out with the boys will mean a lot. Be sure to ask her to come, and not simply give in to her pressure tactics to include her in your plans. To do this means that you want her to be part of your life, something women appreciate. They don’t want to be like your furniture or cars; things you have around you because you need them to achieve specific goals. A woman will never be happy when you treat her as a means to an end. As a “tool”. Inviting her to participate in an activity you enjoy i.e. a time out with your friends indicates you love her enough for her to be part of your world.

Contemplate her beauty

It might seem weird to her, but show her and tell her that you love to look at and appreciate her eyes, lips, neck, and hair.

Take a trip together

Okay, so this one doesn't really count as a little thing, but it will put stars in her eyes when she discovers that you've planned a getaway. Don't forget to bring some honey and candles for late-night entertainment.

Call or e-mail for no reason

Picking up the phone in the middle of the day just to see how her day is going will work wonders. Even sending her a witty e-mail, filled with love’s lingo, is sure to brighten her day and put a smile on her face. A woman needs to feel secure. Security is not only about finances, she also wants to feel emotionally secured. She wants to know that you love her. Remember making a woman feel secure emotionally is not a thing you do at once, it’s a thing you “keep doing”. So keep sending those love mails.

Leave her a note

If you live together, what better way to start the day than by leaving her a love note on the bathroom mirror before you leave for work? She will love beautifying herself to a personalized note from her very own Prince Charming. You can even prepare her lunch and leave a personal tag with big kisses.

Say I love you

Yes, I love you. Those simply words. Saying them on regular bases, is to the love you share, as fuel is to a fire. Remember we said love is like a fire that needs to be tended to. Those three words will always go a long way in keeping love from waxing cold.

Keeping  love alive is key in every relationship, although am not in one my self but i have come to find out through careful observation and study that the above ideas help in keeping love alive.